• Jack Selcher

Are You Impatient?

Everyone has weird habits that do not seem weird to them. Our weirdness gets on others’ nerves. I am more patient with people than with things. At times it seems inanimate objects are out to get me. That is industrial strength weirdness! After you laugh at my weirdness, consider your own.

Do you save things you will never need? Do you talk to pets like they are people? Do irrational fears greatly limit you? Do you talk to yourself? The weird gene reveals itself in thousands of ways!

Forbearance is humbly and compassionately putting up with others’ weirdness. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13). It is often hard to separate sin and weirdness. Because we are sinners, we sin. That requires forgiveness in relationships. God gets the glory when weird and sinful people can love one another.

Christ’s person and work are the basis for forgiving & forbearing. How we live should flow from being chosen, holy & loved by God (Colossians 3:12). A royal son or daughter should live like one. That is challenging because we are naturally unmerciful, proud, self-centered, impatient, and quick to anger. A ¼-inch anger fuse is standard issue. We need a 10-foot fuse.

Patience is behind forbearance and forgiveness. Behind patience is compassion and humility. Patience trickles and then flows from an increasingly compassionate and humble heart. Being chosen, holy and beloved by God should lengthen our anger fuse. We have received God’s undeserved favor and must pass it on to others.

Forbearing means putting up w/ one another. Others’ traits irritate us like a stone in our shoe, but we do not want our weirdness and sins held against us. “Love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8, NIV). Love “always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” (1 Corinthians 13:7-8, NIV). Forbearance means treating others better than they deserve because God treats us better than we deserve.

How do we do it? We pass on to others the grace we receive from God. The Spirit of God in us treats others through us as He treats us, which is better than we and they deserve. We have to submit and trust Him to work through us. The fruit of the Spirit is … forbearance (Galatians 5:22). When we yield to the Spirit’s will and ways, forbearance mysteriously grows out of the soil of our impatience. #patience #freechristiandiscipleshipresources #freeevangelismresources #freechristianleadershipresources

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